Holidays Can Be Lonely Time

Dear Dr. LeCrone:

Can you please address the problem of loneliness during the holiday season?

I have experienced this vacuum of despair during several holiday seasons in my life, and now I see many examples of lonely souls at the homeless shelter where I am employed.

Our society often overlooks those who suffer from this terrible lack of human relationships while the majority of those around them enjoy the warmth of friends and family.

-A reader in Ohio

Dear Reader:

Loneliness is a terrible problem for many people whose lives are often filled with a sense of despair that grows even greater during the holiday season.

In fact, a significant number of people actually dread the holiday season and can’t wait for the New Year to arrive.

Consider the following examples:

• Many elderly live alone or without supportive friends or relatives close by.

• Those suffering from chronic pain and debilitating medical conditions are often restricted from activities that may bring joy and happiness.

• Individuals who are single are sometimes separated from families and places of origin. With many of their friends and acquaintances involved with their own families, a single person may feel left out of the holiday celebration.

• Those in the military who are serving our country far from their families and close friends miss spending time with their loved ones.

• Newly divorced couples or those who have recently experienced a death in the family often feel a greater sense of loss and sadness during this time of year.

The holidays can be the loneliness time of the year, but there are many activities that can keep a person busy. Church-related events, special holiday activities offered in many communities, a few good movies or a special vacation can all make the holiday season seem less lonely.

Additionally, there is an old saying that goes something like this, “Loneliness is often caused by wanting people to do something for us. When we do things for other people, we are rarely lonely.”

If you are going to be alone during the holidays, look for activities of service to those less fortunate than yourself. Give of yourself and watch your holidays brighten and lighten for both them and you.