Gift of time, yourself is a valuable one

The thoughts of Christmas often bring to mind special gifts for friends and relatives. We want to select something that will really please that person.

However, many of us dislike shopping. That makes gift-giving a difficult task unless we are lucky enough to know exactly what we want to give and can obtain the gift in a relatively easy way.

It seems our problem is we don’t like the process of shopping and the struggle with decisions about whether the gift will be the correct one, whether it will be the right color, a distinctive design, the correct size.

I have noticed that many individuals who prefer not to shop are less concerned with color and style, focusing more on function and purpose. Maybe that’s why many men find it difficult to shop for their wives, but many women voice the opposite opinion.

The crowded condition of many stores and malls and filled parking lots and streets during these peak times is a valid concern. Long lines at checkout counters can challenge the patience of even the most non-time-urgent individual.

What are you supposed to do if the gift you give turns out to be unsuitable? Should you mention that it is returnable? Will a refund be given? Should you offer to make the exchange? What if a substitute item is not available?

Some of us view shopping with apprehension and even dread. If our budget is tight and the list is lengthy, we tense up. Yes, Christmas definitely has its frustrating moments for some of us. And that’s not bah humbug.

Of course some people love the crowds. The hustle and bustle in the stores, the music, the selection process is keenly anticipated. But for those of us who prefer a simpler fashion, here are a few tried and true suggestions that are usually gift pleasers:

At periodic intervals throughout the year, cook and deliver a meal to someone on your list. Bake a cake. Fire up the pit and roast a turkey or brisket. Let them know now you will be doing this during the coming year.

Cut and past a “coupon book” of redeemable items, such as running an errand, picking up laundry or cleaning, mowing the grass or cleaning the house.

Use your talents. If you sew, offer to repair or alter a garment of clothing. If you are artistic, arrange some flowers or paint a picture. Answer some correspondence that a person one your list may need help in completing.

Offer to baby-sit so a young mother can have time to get ready for Santa or on days she has medical or dental appointments.

Call someone who is lonely. Set aside enough time to really listen to him or her.

Write a note on a Christmas card and give someone a sincere but well deserved compliment.

Take elderly friends for an evening drive so they can look at the Christmas lights or attend church on Christmas Eve.

Send a check to one of the many charitable and needy organizations in your community. Send it in honor of someone on your list who does not need additional material things. That’s a real honor.

Don’t feel bad because you hate to shop. There is pleasure in giving and receiving. Your gift of your time and yourself is a valued gift.